20 Silent Traps That Are Destroying Christian Marriages Today

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“While there is little difference between Christian and non-Christian marital woes, a Christ-follower has the power to recognize issues in the light of Gods Word and experience the transforming power of His Spirit.”

By SueSchlesman

Marriages fail for many reasons and often from a combination of reasons. Any of the issues listed below should give cause for concern and care. Unaddressed personal and spiritual issues will affect both partners, even if one is unaware or innocent. While there is little discrepancies between Christian and non-Christian marital woes, a Christ-follower has the power to recognize issues in the light of Gods Word and experience the transforming power of His Spirit. Marital bliss is fictional, but marital happiness can be a reality. Here are 20 reasons why matrimonies( even Christian matrimonies) fail 😛 TAGEND

1. Unforgiving Spirit

Learn to extend forgiveness because its critical to harmony. Instead of preoccupying about how youve been wronged, treat your spouse how God treats you. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you .( Colossians 3:13)

2. Financial Pressure

Dont spend their own lives trying to earn more and expend more, or you are able to enslave yourself to a life of discontent, materialism, and endless stress. For the love of fund is the root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and penetrated themselves through with many griefs .( 1 Timothy 6:10)

3. Infidelity

Lust always leads to infidelity of the heart, mind, and body. No sexual experience outside of marriage is okay. God will never result you to fall in love with someone other than your spouse. You shall not commit adultery .( Exodus 20:14)

4. Insecurity and Worry

Take your eyes off the world and its illusion of happiness; you are able to never find peace from anyone or anything the world offers you. Trust in the Lord. But try first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow .( Matthew 6:32 -3 3)

5. Secret Sins

If you hide a sinful fantasy or habit, it will grow stronger; feigning something doesnt exist or isnt incorrect dedicates it greater power over your life. You have set our iniquities before you, our secret sins in the light of your presence .( Psalm 90:8)

6. Parenting Differences

The Bible is the best parenting source available; seek to follow Christ and point your kids toward Christ, and parenting details will fall into place. Do not exasperate your children; instead, bringing them up in the nurture and warning of the Lord .( Ephesians 6:4)

7. Interference from Others

Dysfunctional or controlling relatives and friends will set tremendous pressure on your family unit; seek Deities wisdom and perspective about how to deal with your decisions. Then draw necessary borders with everyone outside Gods will for your life. Respect one another out of reverence for Christ .( Ephesians 5:21)

8. Selfishness

We all look out for ourselves, especially when someone challenges our desires. Begin considering your spouses perspective first; winning an debate only weakens your marriage. Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in meeknes, value others above yourselves .( Philippians 2:23)

9. Entitlement

Self-pity, disillusionment, and annoyance come from an I-deserve-this attitude. Watch for these feelingsthe core problem is self-worship. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and oppose. You do not have because you do not ask God. When you ask, you do not receive because you ask with wrong motives, that you may expend what you get on your pleasures. ( James 4:2 -3)

10. Spiritual and Emotional Immaturity

Maturity takes a lifetime, so give your spouse room to grow without ridiculing or reprimanding for him/ her for immaturity. Surround your marriage with godly, matured role model. I press on toward the goal to win the award for which God has called me in Christ Jesus. All of us who are matured should take such a view of things .( Philippians 3:14 -1 5)

11. Grief and Depression

Everyone goes through periods of grief and sadness; be supportive and understanding when your spouse is sad, by gently guiding him/ her toward assistance. Be merciful to me, Lord, for I am in distress; my eyes grow weak with regret, my soul and body with grief .( Psalm 31:9)

12. Greed

You were created to be satisfied merely in Gods presence. Dont feed grief because the things you want will not satisfy you. No one can serve two masters. Either you will dislike the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to one and hate the other .( Luke 16:13)

13. Shame

Gods Spirit convicts us when we sin; He doesnt shame us for our mistakes. Embrace that fact that Jesus grace will set you free from the disgrace you feel. I live in disgrace the working day long and my face is covered with disgrace .( Psalm 44:15)

14. Anger

If you have a short fuse, you need to find out why and stop construction excuses. Get help to overcome this destructive and addictive habit. Let all bitterness, and wrath, and rage, and clamor, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice .( Ephesians 4:31)

15. Dishonesty

Never lie, mislead, or delude your spouse; dont keep secrets because it will drive a wedge between you. Plus, one deception always births another one. Do not lie to each other .( Colossians 3:9)

16. Worldliness

When your hearts pines for recognition, wealth, and beauty, you will believe that your worth is attached to who you are and what you do; and the more you doubt your worth, the more you will find your spouse to be unsatisfactory. Teaching us, that denying all ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly in this present world .( Titus 2:12)

17. Pride

Here lies the root of all conflict, insecurities, and sin. So instead of thinking about yourself, expend your energy and love by giving your spouse grace and love. Where there is discord, there is pride, but wisdom is seen with those who take advice .( Proverbs 13:10)

18. Disappointment

When hard times made, you might feel that your spouse has not done enough to construct you happy. Take a look at where you place your hope; if its not God, you will continually struggle with disappointment. Start praising God for all His provision, and your disappointment will fade. Why are you downcast, O my spirit? Why so disturbed within me? Set your hope in God, for I will yet praise him, my Savior and my God .( Psalm 42:5)

19. Different Priorities/ Value System

You and your spouse may have live by opposite criteria, which can cause contention and annoyance. Try to remember that God holds you accountable for your actions; live your life and dont focus on what your spouse is doing or not doing. How can a young person stay on a path to purity? By living according to your term? I seek you with all my heart; do not let me stray from your commands .( Psalm 119:10 -1 1)

20. Self-image

If you suffer from low self-esteem, the answer is not to love yourself moreits to love God and thank Him for His ongoing work in their own lives. Let God transform you into His image; embrace your process, instead of comparing yourself to others. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully constructed; your works are wonderful, I know that full well .( Psalm 139:14) About the Author: Sue Schlesman is a Christian writer, teacher, and speaker. Her blogs, fiction, and non-fiction reach a wide audience. You can find her philosophizing about life, education, family, and Jesus at www.susanwalleyschlesman.com and www. 7prayersthatwork. com .

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