My Favorite Thought Catalog Piece From 2017( So far)

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Advice

How To Get Out Of Bed by Kim Quindlen

One the things that is hardest for me to describe to people who don’t understand depression and anxiety is that sometimes it feels like literally doing is impossible. Once when I was incredibly depressed I didn’t set sheets back onto my bed for 4 days even though they were in the dryer, clean and ready to be reassembled. I felt very~ ensure~ by such articles. And while putting it under advice may seem kind of weird given how/ why I relate to it, I think it’s important when you’re in one of those whirlpools where it feels like everything is impossible that even the tiniest things, like getting out of bed( even if you don’t have the energy to make it ), is a win.

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11 Reasons Why Independent Women Often Feel They Aren’t Wired For Love by Brianna Wiest

I hate saying that I read something and believe, “me” but I read this and guessed, “me.” I lately tried to explain to someone why I’m not interested in relationships and procured myself struggling to get anything out other than an awkward,” Ummm, cuz .” This piece by Brianna put into terms exactly what I was feeling without telling me how to” fix myself” which I 100% appreciated.

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On Living Your Own Strange Life by Chrissy Stockton

I am filled with a lot of doubt and things like loneliness and uncertainty and a huge dread of not ever being enough. But there are days when I look around at my strange little apartment filled with flea market trinkets or watch my puppy lounge next to me while I feed tacos from my favorite food truck alone, and I feel so peaceful. My life looks nothing like what I thought it would in my early twenties, but it’s still a pretty decent one. This essay Chrissy wrote perfectly encapsulates that exact notion.

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I Am Slowly Learning What It Means To Be Human by Bianca Sparacino

I think one of the biggest lessons I’ve had to learn( and am still learning) is that it’s okay to construct mistakes and to stumble because that’s part of simply being a human. I rule over myself with an iron fist and even when a mistake isn’t my fault, a part of me feels like it is. One of the things I admire most about Bianca is how much she promotes self-forgiveness and being easy on yourself. I maybe am not( aka: am absolutely not) quite there, but I’m trying.

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Poetry/ Prose

A Brief History Of Falling In Love With Strangers by Ari Eastman

The thing I love about Ari’s writing, other than the fact that it’s idk..great, is her ability to tell a story. Even if it’s just a 120 word lyric or this little prosy narrative about her impressions for people she doesn’t really know, everything Ari writes takes you on a journey. I always feel like I’m getting a little window to her life, which is what truly excellent storytelling is all about.

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Loving Two People At Once Shouldn’t Be Poetry( But Somehow, It Is) by Caitlin Conlon

I had to read this piece three or four times the first time I saw it to fully see and assimilate the scope of the world that Caitlin crafted. I don’t know what to say about it other than it’s incredibly captivating and so, so, so good.

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It’s Hard To Say My Depression Is Back, So I Just Don’t by Ari Eastman

One of my favourites things about the way Ari writes poetry is that it’s clearly written to be consumed by a reader. She doesn’t write from a place of trying to show you how smart she is or overwrite just to attain herself sound deep or forcibly impressive. Ari writes the route she speaks, and she writes in a relatable, accessible way. Her verse stimulates me feel like verse is for me too, and that’s what a great novelist does. They construct you feel greeted into their world and give you a sense of belonging with the words they put on the page( or screen ).

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I Like That We Can’t Control The Weather by Heidi Priebe

Whenever I find myself in the middle of complicated situations or life transitions, I try( try being the operative word here) to remember how Heidi deals with things. I don’t know many people who are better at putting a positive spin on things than Heidi Priebe. She looks at change( something I deal with) like new escapades, new challenges, new things to subdue. It’s an attitude I so so admire, and one that I am trying to imitate in my own life.

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The Eleventh Of September In A Year I Can’t Remember by Chrissy Stockton

I think everyone needs to hit pause on their day sometimes and read writing like Chrissy Stockton’s. Chrissy is the kind of writer I aspire to be like, and this piece with little snapshots of her past Septembers is one I find truly, really special.

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Mental-Health/ Mental Wellness

We’re Okay Now( I Think) by Katie Mather

Whether we acknowledge it or not I think we all worry about ourselves and our habits more than social media or the face that we depict to the masses would care to policeman to. I truly appreciated how candid Katie was talking about her relationship with drinking. It made “i m feeling” less weird about worrying about alcohol and myself and my relationship with what I devour and requiring a minute to figure myself out. To repeat what I stated earlier, felt very~ assured~ by this.

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On Learning What It Genuinely Means To Surrender by Jillian Stacia

After being diagnosed with nervousnes in my twenties I felt like I had to relearn a ton about myself. About why I react to things the route I do, about my sleep patterns, about what I need when things are overwhelming, about what overwhelming ACTUALLY entails. Jillian encapsulated what living with anxiety is like beautifully and vulnerably in this piece, and stimulated me feel very is aware of used to describe her struggles with balancing her anxiety and the rest of her life.

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Talking To People In My Life Is Absolutely Exhausting Now, When Did That Happen? by Kim Quindlen

I think there’s weird, unspoken assumption that at some point in your twenties you’re just “done” and changing/ evolving is really kept to a minimum. That bad things don’t appear out of nowhere and who you are will rarely, if ever, shift. And because of that unspoken notion we’re all very afraid to admit when things aren’t going well, when things aren’t the style they’re “supposed” to be. Perhaps it’s because I know and love Kim and feel like I can talk to her about this kind of stuff, but this piece is so honest and talks about one of the things I think we all to continue efforts to sweep under the carpet so perfectly.

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A Story About Food by Chrissy Stockton

Even after what feels like a forever of exposing ourselves to the masses, I know that there are certain topics I’m without question protective of when it is necessary to what I feel comfy writing about. When Chrissy writes this style she’s amazing at collected from this place of vulnerability gently. It doesn’t come with a demand for attention, it’s not greedy, it’s not attention-seeking or self-absorbed. And she doesn’t have a tone of insisting that you do the same or feel the same style as she does. But by writing it precisely like that, in that gentle style, she’s promoting me to simply that. Which is, yet again, why I look up to her so much.

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Self-Reflection

I Am Just Trying To Be A Person by Kim Quindlen

This is one of the best things anyone’s written on Thought Catalog. Especially post-election and in an era where anything feelings tumultuous and out of control and unpredictable and sad. In this essay Kim beautifully said how exhausting simply existing is sometimes. Because at the end of the working day, we’re all just trying to be humen. And being a human is genuinely, really hard.

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When You Dedicate Up Your Dream For A’ Life’ by Shado Evans

There’s this fear I have that happiness and convenience are not able to coexist. That in order to have stability, you’re going to have to give up some semblance of dreaming. And then, an off-shoot of that dread, is that if by some chance you’re lucky enough to find a dream that coincides with a stable, comfortable life, holding onto it will feel like a tightrope act. Shado’s essay was heartfelt and reflective, and perfectly summed up everything I dread about this so, so well.

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Love

17 Day Of Watching You Fall Out Of Love With Me by Joms Zulueta Jimenez

When love aims oftentimes the signs aren’t dramatic. There isn’t this big demonstrate of” oh my feelings have changed, goodbye eternally .” Usually, it’s quiet. It’s in missed text and purposefully falling asleep on the couch alone. It’s in noticing that you want someone to cut their hair, when that used to be something you loved about them the most. And when you watch it happen? It’s pretty heartbreaking.

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Our Strip Mall Romance By Lina Abascal

This is the love story they should have told in Sorry not sorry.

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A Love Story Told Through Venmo by Katie Mather

I don’t know if Katie meant for this to be touching, but I really thought it was. I don’t know if I’ll ever realistically be able to predict Katie’s intents with write or anything else, which is how she would prefer for things to be. But that’s one of the reasons I like her run so much. You see something that on one hand, you’d expect to be a little silly and light and instead you are again, reminded how falling out of love isn’t always some big tantrum and instead can be quiet, but still just as sad. I don’t know, I’m jogging. Just read it.

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Humor

20 Honest Signs Your Relationship Is Probably Over by Tommy Paley

Satire is tricky. It’s hard to do it well, it’s something a lot of novelists never attempt, and it’s something I’m really glad we have writers like Tommy continuing to stimulate popular. My favorite thing about Tommy’s writing is that when you read his pieces you usually start thinking you’re going to get one thing, and they he flips them to be something else solely. It’s really, actually entertaining and what quality humor writing should be.

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Forgive Me, For I Am But A Dainty Sad Girl by Katie Mather

Katie is the funniest person writing on Thought Catalog right now. Quote me.

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Misc

I’m Pregnant( On Purpose !) But I’d Rather Talk About The Abortion I Had Three Years Ago by Melanie Berliet

This is one of the most important things I think we’ve ever had published on our site, and I think it’s important because it shows how decisions like this 1) don’t have to be scary and 2) don’t have to be dramatic and 3) don’t have to completely alter the entire scope of their own lives. It’s as simple as making a selection that fits their own lives, and doesn’t have to drastically impact everything that comes afterwards. Of course, this is a personal choice and a personal situation and no two experiences will ever be alike, but this is one narrative and it’s a story that I’m so glad Melanie decided to share.

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All The Men I Probably Won’t Have Sex With by Callie Byrnes

Being a woman is tiring and terrible and we need people to stand up more often the way Callie did here so that slowly but surely, more people get it. And even if they reject it and write it off as” simply another woman complaining about compliments” that seed will have been planted. Maybe we’ll become harder to ignore.

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A Series Of First Impressions by Katie Mather

When I first read this piece I was instantly frustrated because I was not one of the first impressions. But then, I was just solely enthralled by it. I love the way it’s presented as little vignettes, little snippets of a relationship you will probably never know the rest of. You literally merely get a fraction of the story, and it’s really cool to me how captivating Katie constructed even that littlest piece.

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I’m Afraid Of Failing, I’m Afraid Of Success, And I’m Afraid Of My Good Luck by Ari Eastman

You’re not supposed to be afraid of success, you’re supposed to leaning in. You’re not supposed to be afraid of failing, because you’ll be strong enough to be able to get past it. You’re not supposed to admit that sometimes you’re lucky, because that’s not taking control of your fate. There are all of these things that we’re “supposed” to do and honestly? Sometimes I am paralyzed by the “supposed tos” in life. And Ari? Ari admitted it. I was/ am really proud of Ari for writing this. I’m really proud she’s my friend.

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