‘I took my wife’s name and my boss refuses to accept it’
8 days ago
When three humen told us why they took their wife’s last name, other readers get in touch to share their experiences. Here two of them explain how it turned out to be route more difficult than they had imagined.
‘My boss refuses to accept my new name’
Wayne Harding, ne Nell: I married my spouse Debbie in July 2016 and changing my name from mine – Nell – to hers – Harding – caused a big stir among my family and at work. The decision was a no-brainer for me. Debbie has a daughter from a previous relationship and we wanted her to have the same name as the rest of the family. I remember my stepdaughter saying to me that she didn’t want to go to school with a different name, and I completely understood how she felt.
I am South African and most of my family still live there and weren’t able to fly over to Cyprus, where we had our wedding. I didn’t mention my plans to change my name – I didn’t think it was a big deal. It was only when I changed my name on Facebook that my father and my brother found out. They weren’t happy. “It’s just a name really, Dad, it’s not the end of the world, ” I said to him on the phone. He told me it was the biggest slap in the face for him and the family. “It genuinely cuts deep, son, ” he messaged me afterward.